“Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye?” (Luke 6:41)
Most everyone has grown up hearing some form of this teaching from Luke.
In Buddhism, the bodhisattva vow is “I vow not to talk about the faults of others”.
In psychology, they prefer the clunkier “avoidance of self-serving attributional bias”.
Whatever the perspective, a universal truth is that, as humans, we should first focus on and address our own shortcomings before identifying and judging those of others. Continue reading
One month ago yesterday, I crossed the threshold from being simply a husband to being a husband and a father. In the time since, my mind has vacillated between reckless thoughts of “what if” to anxious worries of “what now”, making many stops in between.
It is amazingly debilitating to try and put into words all that really changes in your life between a baby being more of an idea in your wife’s stomach to a reality in your arms. Yet somehow, you just adapt. The initial shock and fear, that this living little person is solely reliant on you for their every need, becomes daily, moment by moment, your new sense of normal. In such beautiful and humbling ways, a family naturally develops and evolves, growing out of the love that holds it together like magnetic force. Continue reading
One of the most beautiful things about the Kingdom of God is that it operates, based on what we need at any given moment, between abundance and sufficiency.
There is never a time that, as God’s adopted kids, that we will not have access to the emotional, physical, mental, or spiritual tools we need to navigate a situation. It gets messy, it doesn’t always make sense, it doesn’t always end the way we think it should…but God and His Kingdom are big enough to handle whatever is in front of us. Continue reading
Well hello there.
As I sit writing this, you are fidgety and uncomfortable in your mom’s stomach, quickly running out of room and about to make your grand entrance into our lives in the next few weeks. I wanted to take a few moments, and put together some of what I have been thinking about in the past nine months. Continue reading
I know you are wondering what happened to the site.
I have decided to take some time off.
Time off from blogging, time off from marketing, time off from this second career.
I did it because I want to focus on friendships.
I want to focus on pouring into the lives of people around me, having them pour into mine…
…because I was too focused on publicizing. Continue reading
I wrote a post.
It’s right here.
In it, I tried to offer a unifying approach to the topic of legislating marriage equality. I consciously tried to avoid leaning morally towards one side of the argument or the other because I consciously wanted to show how we can best walk out the love of Jesus no matter our personal feelings on the nature of homosexuality as a moral conversation.
Even so, even in attempting to unify…I now find myself in the midst of some backlash. Continue reading
Somewhere along my path through undergrad and grad school in psychology, I came to really love B.F. Skinner. I know that there are questionable ethics and perhaps an eschewed moral compass in his history, but his contributions to the science are inescapable in their influence on modern psychological thought. Continue reading
I could have never predicted needing to write a blog post to justify changing my profile picture on Facebook.
After the passionate back-and-forth on the news yesterday, with the looming possibility of federal legislation on the issue of same sex marriage, I quietly logged into my account, and with a few clicks of the mouse replaced that picture of my gorgeous wife with one of a simple red background and a white equals sign.
Marriage equality, is what it represents. Continue reading
If you’ve read anything by Donald Miller, you have probably noticed the theme he carries that our lives are stories being told…and in the end, just as in any of the best books, even the small details of your life will count towards the story as a whole. What you do, or do not do, on a daily, minute-ly, and second-ly basis do actually matter.
What are you doing with those moments?
Is every second of your life modeled after Christ, or at the end of the day do you just look back and hope that at least the main things were in line with God?
Because at the end of our earthly life, when we hold the book of our story up to share with God and the angels…
…are there going to be blank pages? Continue reading
(photo courtesy of ruffledblog.com)
Looking at how marriage is represented in society, and even within the Church, can be dizzying in its polarization.
In our society, marriage as an idea is often seen as a requirement for a successful life. Marriage is the crux upon which our careers, finances, and identities are balanced upon. There are many good things about how marriage is represented in our culture at large…but many visible cracks and shortfalls in the understanding that can be easily repaired by looking to Jesus and His teaching. Continue reading